When it comes to marriage is there truth to the idea you see everywhere today that you must find your “soul mate”?

While a lot of fun to talk about, I think when we ask that question it relegates finding the right person to finding the right lottery ticket. When in fact marriage isn’t like that at all.

I think a better way to look at marriage is to think of it like your savings or retirement account. For example, in order for your 401k or 403b plan to grow there are things you have to do:

  1. You have to commit to protecting the principal long term.  If you don’t commit to the plan, you will lose it.
  2. Make deposits.  The key to any successful retirement plan is to make deposits often…especially when you’re young.
  3. Invest well.  It goes without saying that when it comes to retirement you put your money in safe place where it can grow.

This financial formula for a healthy retirement is the same plan for a healthy life-long union with you and your spouse.  Marriage is a living breathing growing relationship.  It’s a a picture of the gospel (Ephesians 5:32). I must remember a healthy marriage is one that I fully commit to, nurture, and protect.  If I neglect to do one or more of these things I risk going bankrupt.  Praise God for his grace to teach my wife and me what marriage looks like even when we sometimes forget.

God bless you as you seek to honor Him in YOUR marriage.


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