Davy Crockett once said, “Let your tongue speak what your heart thinks.” I agree … well, sometimes. While the tongue can express unconditional love and eloquent praise, it can also get us in trouble. Recently, blogger Lina Abujamra offered “10 Times to Hold Your Tongue.”

1. When you have no idea what to say
2. When you’re wrongly accused
3. When you’re mad
4. When you’re confused about life
5. When you wouldn’t want someone else to find out you said it
6. When you don’t really mean it
7. When you can’t stop yearning for the good old days
8. When you have a lot to do and you don’t like it
9. When the timing is wrong
10. When you don’t have anything to say that gives grace

Do you see one, two or maybe three on the list that resonate with you? I sure do. Moments and situations when you know in your head you’d be best to keep quiet, but that pesky tongue gets flapping and feelings get hurt, relationships get tested and ultimately, God isn’t honored.

So, next time you’re at the office late under a pile of work, consider Philippians 2:14: “Do all things without grumbling or complaining.”

Or the next occasion when you have the opportunity to pass along the latest gossip, consider Ephesians 4:29: “Let no corrupt talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear it.”

Just as James reminds us, a ship has control of its rudder. As such, while our tongue may one of the strongest muscles in the body, with God’s help, we have control over it.

2 Responses to "10 times to hold your tongue"

  • Meryl says:

    When this was aired on Friday morning, around 8 am, was there a verse out of Romans that went along with this? The main idea of the verse was that we are not to judge others as they do not answer to us, they answer to the Lord. Therefore it is not our job to place judgement on their actions.

    I have been trying to find it as it spoke strongly to something my husband and I are working through and realizing about ourselves. We are seeing how quickly we are to judge others and are praying for God to work that out in us and change our hearts. I would love that verse!!

  • Bryon Mengle says:

    Hello Meryl,
    I don’t remember referencing a Romans passage. In regards to judgement, there’s Matthew 7:1-5: “Judge not, that you be not judged. For with the judgment you pronounce you will be judged, and with the measure you use it will be measured to you. Why do you see the speck that is in your brother’s eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye? Or how can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when there is the log in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take the speck out of your brother’s eye.” and Luke 6:37: “Judge not, and you will not be judged; condemn not, and you will not be condemned; forgive, and you will be forgiven.” I hope those help … and thanks for listening.

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