On New Year’s Eve 2004, on Main Street in Disneyland, I popped the “big” question at Midnight, which was followed by a “Yes!” as the fireworks erupted high above Cinderella’s Castle (timing is everything). This was the beginning to Shawna and my story. And in the ten years since, we have lived in three states, had two amazing kids and learned many lessons. For example …

  • Keep God at the center of all you do. Everything. No exceptions. Let Him be more than the deciding vote, the tie breaker, the consultant.
  • Grow spiritually … individually (personal devos) and together (church gatherings, small group).
  • Be jointly invested (and discerning) in your finances. Remember, God has entrusted you – be a wise steward of your finances.
  • Remember, you’re a team. Gents, we’re called to be the head of the household, however, that doesn’t speak to a dictatorship. I can recall several times when Shawna has spoken the right truth into a situation that was the tipping point for the decision.
  • Care for one another – in your actions, in your words and in your acts of service.
  • Love one another. Next to God, we are called to love our spouse wholeheartedly and unconditionally … even when in the tough times.
  • Pray … individually, together and often.

Since this side of Heaven no-one is perfect (ask anyone’s that married), for any “success” the world may see in us, we are quick to give all credit to the Lord who has sustained and blessed us and our relationship over the years.

1 Corinthians 13:4-13  Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth.  Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.  Love never ends.

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