Think back to your driver’s education classes. Along with how to maneuver four-way stops and merge onto a highway, your instructor likely lectured you about blind spots. The Department of Motor Vehicles describes these as: “the areas of the road that cannot be seen while looking forward or through either the rear-view or side mirrors.” In other words, your blind spots are areas you cannot see on your own.
Recently, this got me to thinking … how do blind spots translate to our daily lives? We often live in the delusion that we know everything about ourselves; however, if this is true, why do we step out of dressing rooms and ask, “How does this look on me?” Maybe we don’t know everything about ourselves after all. I would offer it’s more than maybe; we all have blind spots. So, what do we do about them?
Identify the who.
Over the years, God has placed key people in my life. It’s important to ensure it’s God who is identifying these people. If left up to us, we’re prone to choose people in our social group, friends we grew up with, people we like to be around. However, God’s strategy is different. These people have purpose for you, so it’s important it’s Him that is doing the choosing.
Give them permission.
Once God has led key people into your life, you’ll need to give them permission to share with you what they see in you. Your actions, your motives, your words, your behavior, your body language, your attitudes, your leadership, and so on. Be prepared. Just like a doctor says before he administers a shot, “This may hurt a little.”
No-one likes being told what they’re doing wrong … but it stings a little less when you know it’s coming from a Godly friend who has your best interest at heart. So, take what is shared with you with an open heart and mind. And once you’re made aware of a blind spot, it’s up to you to make a change.
God desires us to be in community. And when we have trusted friends around us, He uses them to refine us into more like Jesus. You can’t change what you don’t know needs to be changed. Open your mind and heart – and check your ego at the door – and allow God to help you see the blind spots otherwise unseen.