Life can get heavy. In the midst of bills, errands, health issues and raising children, it’s easy to let the friendship in your marriage slide. How do you rebuild that strong friendship with your spouse?
Bill and Pam Farrel urge us to laugh – often. Laughter relieves tension, burns calories, and rekindles a sense of intimacy in a relationship. Pam gives an example.
“We hide squirt guns in different parts of our house. We’ll have squirt gun fights in the house.” Pam also suggests spontaneous visits. “Just walk into each other’s offices and tell each other jokes. Even when Bill was a senior pastor and our offices were in different locations, I would email him jokes or would put funny cards in his briefcase.”
Bill says it’s also important to cheer for each other. If your husband has finished a project, even if it’s hanging a closet door, praise him and be a cheerleader! Learn to celebrate the little moments with your spouse – especially given how short life is.
Pam says don’t take a second for granted.
“People don’t realize how short an amount of time they actually have with their spouse. The median age for all women in the United States is 36. The median age for widows is 57. That means a typical woman in the United States will have just over a thousand Saturdays with her husband. How many are already gone? And how many more do you have? That was a real wake-up call for me when I actually did the logistics of counting down. Maybe I might want to really look at my priorities and my free time and carve out a little bit more to celebrate and have fun… and a little bit of red-hot monogamy with my spouse too.”