A wise sage once quipped, “If you think you have all the answers, you haven’t heard all the questions.” I think there is great wisdom in that statement. In fact, I would go so far as to say that God has orchestrated a life that poses questions to which there are no easy answers. It makes me wonder if he does this so that we will embrace the struggle of knowing Him personally and mature in the process.

As a young father, I remember thinking that it was my job to have succinct, button-upped solutions to my kids biggest questions about life. One day it occurred to me that the struggle of working through life’s biggest questions deepened my faith personally over time and helped me grow as a believer so if I grew from the struggle, why not just let it happen with my kids?

That’s not to say that we didn’t teach them the basics of growing in wisdom to our kids. Of course, building blocks like prayer, meditation and Bible study were taught in our home from the beginning. As their mother and I taught what we believed and lived it out as best as we could, we had to trust that God was big enough to handle their biggest questions. As my view of God developed, the “need” to have all the answers waned, I’m glad to say.

The Scriptures declare that God is good. He is a personal God, not like an impersonal “Force.” His personality is one of a loving, caring heavenly Father, full of wisdom and wanting only the best for each of us. At a point in time as a young father, I became convinced that God was big enough to handle my kids toughest questions on life. I learned that his desire for each one in our nuclear family – me, my wife and our six children was a personal relationship. If we laid a good foundation on how to know God personally, wouldn’t God be faithful to “parent” our kids when we didn’t have all the answers?

I believe the answer is a resounding “yes.”

If you’re a young parent, remember this. You will never have all the answers to your kids questions. And learning to trust when you don’t have all the answers is something your kids will pick up by watching you. You don’t need all the answers. That’s where faith comes in. More importantly, your faith will mature in embracing the struggle because it is God who is at work even when we don’t have all the “whys”. He promises that.

“And I am certain that God, who began the good work within you, will continue his work until it is finally finished on the day when Christ Jesus returns.” Philippians 1:6 NLT

Something to think about.

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